~She's "ethnic"?!~

Well my MIL has done it..again...said something completely inappropriate and unnecessary.

Yesterday she was over the house as she tends to do every Tuesday. She arrives at 11AM and proceeds to stay until 2PM. Um..ok... Anyways, I have on Days of Our Lives because since being home now with Madelyn I have gotten re-addicted and learned yesterday that Nicole used to be a porn star. Whoa! Or as Chad put it, "and old washed up nymphomaniac porn star"..lol Anyways..on this show there is a character named Lexie. She is Stephano DiMera's daughter from way back. She is a respected doctor on this show and quite possibly one of the only female characters who is not a lying manipulative bitch. Also, her history is that she is half black/half white, so she comes from a mixed background. So. The scene on the TV is Lexie is chatting with Bo in the hospital, and at the time my MIL was chatting with Madelyn. My MIL looks up at the screen, looks back to Madeyn and says, "Oh don't pay attention to her, she looks incredibly ethnic, don't you think?" She then looked at me with a chuckle and I was staring at her with my mouth wide open. I quickly closed it, raised my eyebrows and gave her that subtle look of disapproval.

How do I tell her that saying these things around my daughter is completely out of line? I realize that she was born and raised in Virginia and her grandfather was in the KKK, no lie, they have the robes to prove it..scary..but come on! I feel like I can't even tell Scott now about it because he basically told me he does not want to hear anything negative about his mom ever again. Wtf am I supposed to do? I'm terrified of bringing this up. Not only that, this is not the first time she has done something like this. A few Thanksgivings ago, she said something about one of the football players on TV, "No wonder he can run so fast. He is black you know." My mother was so offended she left the room. And she also had something to say about one of my dear dear friends who came to our wedding. She asked Scott if he was really invited or was crashing the party. Are. You. Serious.

I can't even imagine what she will say if she ever meets my kid's doctor. Who I know I have told you all about. But for a quick refresher, she was born in Pakistan, wears a borderline Bhurka, lines her arms with thin gold bangles, and speaks 4 languages; 2 of which I have never even heard of in my life. She is very educated and an extremely nice lady.

It saddens me that all my MIL can see is the color of a person's skin and not the beauty that lays inside all while letting us all know publically that is how she feels. I'm makes me ill.